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How to share your message……….. without being a fraud

So last week I spoke at BOK motivate event “Getting started on your goals and purpose”. what an amazing time. You know that feeling inside your stomach when you’re trying basketball for the first time or a new job. That uncomfortable feeling we all have. I really wanted to inspire other creative minds, those who do not give themselves permission to be themselves. So here’s a little summary of my talk:

When I was a kid I use to tell the most exciting and entertaining stories, most of which were true and mostly exaggerated. I even created my own storybook with my own stories and pictures I had drawn. There was no one with imagination as wide as me. My mum said “ You’re going to be the next Oprah Winfrey”, she was a big fan. My dad said “ nope, politician”. It was the beginning of a long term struggle. At school I was good at sports, art, performing art singing and asking questions. I was that kid the student didn’t like “ Miss, miss I have another question” but I was a hit the teacher’s until report cards. Then they would say “Mr and Mrs Lisika your child is a top student but talks too much – in french papotage”.

Then one day I realise that I had a deep love for art and writing more than performing art and sports. I wanted to do something with using my brain more than my gift, I guess it was the pressure from my dad.  I could just picture myself telling him “daddy, I’m going to be an artist” and him “Eh eh, do you want me to die” or worse he could ask me for his money back of 5 years I spent in private school.  Who in their right mind would be crazy enough to tell their African dads this type of thing and expect to live. Automatic disinheritance!

So after this discovery I decided that I was going to spare my dad the heartache. So I pretended I was going to be the next best thing after a politician, lawyer. I became a fraud instantly  because I couldn’t tell the truth about what I really wanted to do and it followed me for the rest of my life.

The things that really blocks us from sharing our message with the world?

• What will people say?
• Will it work?
• I need the money before I can?
• What if they laugh at me?
• What if I fail?
• What if…. what if……. what if………

A fraud is not just a deceiver, or leads people astray. It’s giving misrepresentation of who you truly are. When you are out of sync with your inside-you and the outside-you . When you have lost touch with your inner child.  What’s worse than lying to other people? Lying …to… your  SELF.

Sharing your message is not just another sales or marketing gimmick. It’s embracing who you are authentically. Once you’ve done that, then there is no more shame, no more hiding

behind curtains, no more playing small. Other people don’t really care how many mistakes you make as long as you are being yourself.

So in what ways are you still living like a fraud today? Please share in the comment below? What would you like to do, to feel more authentic? Career change? Travel? Launch a project? Start a business?

I would like to give you a free report on my talk “ How to share your message……… without being a fraud. If you’d like to receive it please click here.

See you soon!    

Mathy Lisika-Minsende 

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