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The Dip- Are you in one?

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Help I think I’m in one!

So I’ve been reading this book by Seth Godin ” The Dip” and just noticed how my motivation has gone from high to low. The week didn’t start out as good as I wanted it.  So you’ll  probably have never heard me speak in this manner but I’ am experiencing my “DIP”.

The DIP -

usually what happens after you made a big decision about something you’ve decided to do and you hit your first crisis or a number of them.

Please take a look at some examples of dip that could happen to you.Image source

What did my DIP consist of

  • A really lousy weekend low motivation to do any work

  • Mon- though I had a plan, I didn’t stick to it

  • Didn’t put a blog post

  • I focussed way too much on other people’s projects than my own- I know I told myself I would help other people in order to build my skills and learn something in return but I gave too much.

  • Tues-  Spent almost two hours arguing with Talk- Talk about huge phone charges.  Missed  my 2pm appointment with the food bank . Still, no time to blog, write or make calls

  • The bank charges me for late fee

  • Wed- focused on other people’s project’s once more. Attending a fundraising meeting for a charity I support.

  • 1 hour 30 min arguing with the bank about late charges

  • Stay calm, it can only get better

  • Where are your priorities Mathy!!!

  • My Klout is going down

  • Thur- the job centre made my day. Losing all my paper work, delaying payments and making me miss an interview. I will kill them!!!!

  • I still haven’t changed my theme , blogged………….

  • My hair is drying , I feel like I am pulling it out slowly

I am now asking myself” is this a result of the dip or is it  bad planning? I had all this high energy last week and  now I am re-assessing how much do I want to turn my ideas into a reality.

In the midst of it all something real positive stuff happened.  I did a guest blog on TheEmployable website.Yeah!! And their migth be a job offer starting next week.

Most people when faced with a challenge QUIT. But the DIP teaches you not to quit your projects, or dream. But it may reveal what’s worth quitting in a healthy way.

Please read The DIP!!!!!!!!

And for some reason everyone  around me was talking about the DIP in my creative group. On Tuesday night, one guy (from my creative group) said

“what would life mean if you didn’t have this project  with or without a job?

Wouldn’t it just make work boring and meaningless?

“This gives me a sense of purpose. So quitting is not an option. “He says

Maybe I need to reassess my time-management!?

I quit, I traveled,I conquered Part II


A Private meeting with myself

So you’re telling me you’ve never had one of those!? I’ve had plenty and I still have them. So I am seating at my desk, one afternoon at work, drawing and  writing down what I usually tell my clients to write to columns with what you want and don’t want. Two columns, one with a positive sign and one with a negative sign. The tittle said “why should I go traveling and why should I stay in my job?” I wasn’t bored at work  but rather intrigued by the traveling. So much that when I brought the book I covered it with a yellow cover so that everybody would think I was reading the bible at and I wouldn’t get caught by my boss at work. The table looked something like this -

Why should I go travelling and why should I stay



  • I deserve it

  • It’s been my dream since I was a little girl to go to Japan

  • The book fell on me

  • I could stay at work, it will pay the bills

  • English is not my first language but I speak like a native speaker

  • I’ve never leaved with close family members for a long period since I was a kid

  • I need to learn something different cultures…

  • I don’t see myself progressing within this company.

  • This company is showing that it will potentially be making cuts in a year or two

  • I don’t know anyone in Japan

  • I don’t speak the language

  • I have accomplished everything I wanted to s far in this role

  • My family wants me to be close to them

When I had more Positives, then Negatives and realised the significant reasons for my traveling, everything became clearer. I just needed to anchor it and help my decision be a valid one. I also started thinking of what I would like to do when I get there. With my lack of  degree was it even possible for me to work in a country like Japan for a year or two. I knew I was tired of training people in the UK who weren’t grateful of the skills I had to offer and I wanted people who would respect me more for being a trainer.

I remember I couldn’t afford the book “Work your way a round the world” it was around the £20 mark. So I decided to come back two-three evening a week after work and just do some reading from the book until I could get the information I needed. So Monday, Wednesdays and sometimes Fridays I had an appointment at the Southbank skirting around in the book shop under my favorite spot where the book fell. Obviously this was a temporary measure  and eventually I ordered the book through amazon online.

Excited and Afraid

Clarity and secrecy

as I continued reading I realised that teaching English to Japanese kids was a very apparent choice.   However I discovered I could also volunteer in exchange of accommodation and food. This book had everything information on visa and where to get them or what to do .  All sorts, I could n’t believe my eyes. However, what I decided to do this time is to tell no one about my new venture. Especially my close friends and family. I just couldn’t bear being discouraged once again. I kept it for about 6 months.

Me outside the Temple in Akihabara

Me outside the Temple in Akihabara

You know that look you get, when you tell your friends about some exciting new venture or project you intend to do and the first look they give you is to declare yo insane or worse. So every time a friend asked me “what are you up to Mathy” I would gently say” nothing much you know me” and smile. As painful and heavy as this was I needed time and confirmation to be able to face my friends and tell them the truth.

The only way to affirm your decisions and choices is TIME. The more time you have to bask yourself in the decision. the more it becomes a reality and the stronger you will be, to overcome your opposition.

Opposition, Opposition, Opposition, Opposition!! Can I make it?

Stay tune for Action and Opposition






I quit, I travelled, I conquered

Japan 2008

Japan 2008

This book just fell on me in a book shop at the Southbank. I was in borders, I think at the time and as I picked it, up it said “Work your way around the world”

My curiosity compelled me to open it, so I did. This was the beginning of something I had been seeking for unknowingly. I had been thinking about traveling and going to Japan, America and Argentina for almost a year now.

Japan however was a place I had heard and dreamed about ever since I was a little girl. When my daddy traveled through his work he use to bring a lot of souvenirs and gifts from all over the world. From America’s to Asia. My favorite expedition stories were the one from Asia where there was a little country which was very powerful in mind but not in size and it was Japan. I had an uncle that went to live in Japan for two years, when I was about 13 years old and that just stirred up the desire inside of me. When the book fell on me, I knew it was fate.

Nihong Japan

But all I remember, was the frustration and infuriating pain that I was feeling having spoken to my dad, sister and friends, remembering them discouraging me. My older sister’s exact words was” You can’t go to Japan that’s too far!? What if there is an emergency and we need you here”. My older sister and rest of the family resides in France by the way. As though I could use my spare wings to fly to France whenever I felt. Besides, it’s not like a the fare is like the price of a one day travelcard. It was obvious they loved me but didn’t understand my place in life at the time.

I had just came out of a bullying situation in my previous workplace which I was still recovering from.  And when they paid me and offered me a generous bonus after I took off for stress, I had quiet a bit of money to play with.  But for some reason I felt the urge to tell my older sister of my plans. I wasn’t thinking properly at the time I suppose. So one year, later I have moved out of my old flat which I adored, moved in with my best friend and was now working a new job where I was managing and training volunteers.

I haven’t spoken about this story for a while but I thought it would be useful for one of my readers who recently asked me a number of questions on a comment he made the last week. The question around making tough decisions and traveling. I thought he might enjoy this story.

Here I am in a new Job which I really enjoy and I have somewhat moved up the ladder but I am slowly realizing, I will not last another year or even two. So what now? Well this calls for a private meeting with myself.  In the secrecy of my private thoughts. I begin to scheme and plan how I would quit this Job, go to Japan and conquer……….

If you want to hear the rest of the story, stay stunned for part II !!!

My Dream Land


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